“I should be able to do all of this.”
I hear some version of this from many clients.
We think we should be able to hold down our careers, have a decently clean house most of the time, get healthy meals on the table, walk the dog, work out, shower, look decent on Zoom meetings, always have clean, folded laundry, and on and on.
Let’s even assume that all of this is possible for a second.
Why do we even WANT to do all of those things?
And I mean the nitty-gritty stuff that goes into each of those things. For example, to have a clean house, you need to occasionally mop the floors. To get meals on the table, you have to meal plan, grocery shop/order, and make the meals. Every week.
Even if you could do those things on top of everything else you’ve got going on, do you want to?
Taking a step back: the goal for your life is NOT to do all the things just because you think you “should” be able to, right?
The goal, at least for me and so many of the women I work with, is to enjoy life by doing more of the stuff that we love and/or fulfills us.
Broken down – because life is time, this means our goal is to spend more time doing what we enjoy/fulfills us and less time doing what we don’t like.
For me personally, within financial constraints, I love getting the deep house cleaning off my plate.
I also love services like Instacart and Gobble so that I can spend (way) less time dealing with meal prep and groceries and more time enjoying family meals and doing other things I actually enjoy.
Stop fixating on doing all the things just because you think you “should” be able to do them.
Start evaluating whether you enjoy doing them and get creative to get the stuff you don’t enjoy off your plate.
Just because you could “do it all” doesn’t mean you have to.
Feel free to share this with anyone who needs to hear it.
You can also check out what clients have said about working with me here, as we go over many of these issues in my six-week time management program.