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3 Practical Strategies for Maintaining Your Sanity Right Now

June 30, 2022

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I’m a huge advocate of taking action on issues you care about and someone who wants all of us to enjoy our lives as much as we can – no matter the circumstances.

So, to that end, here are three strategies to help you maintain your sanity in this whiplash-whirlwind of a world right now:

Strategy 1. (This is not a post about taking action and adding more to your plate if you’re tapped out: bear with me here…)

Decide if and how you want to take action on issues you care about so that you know when you’re done.

I’m not here to add more to your plate today. I’m actually trying to free you up from feeling the constant need to take action, so stick with me for a minute…

Decide what action you want to take on certain issues, if any.

Intentionally picking what actions you’re taking will help you (1) do them, (2) calendar them where relevant, and (3) know when you’re done. This brings me to strategy two…

Strategy 2. Know when your attention is no longer constructive

A lot of us (including me) tend to doom-scroll the news and social media right now. I might jump on here intending to take a quick, light break, and 45 minutes later, I’m still scrolling, feeling incredibly stressed out, depressed about our country, and spiraling.

But that’s just hurting me and not helping anyone / any issue.

Once you’ve taken the action you’re going to take for today (see strategy 1), realize that any further news-binging and doom-scrolling is not constructive – and it’s actually harmful to you. It’s making you feel awful without a reason in that it’s not pushing you to take action (you’ve already taken action) and, at that point, all it’s doing is causing a negative impact on your emotional and physical wellbeing.

We need to stop – and we need to help ourselves stop. Which brings us to strategy 3…

Strategy 3. Take steps to help Future You spend her time in a more joyful way

I heard someone say once that we go on social media to let other people dictate what we think and feel.

Very true.

In addition, the news and social media are designed to keep you reading and stuck in their apps/sites – so we jump on and spend way more time and energy than intended letting other people dictate our thoughts and emotions.

So, when you’re going through phases where you notice yourself being on Instagram for five minutes before you even realized you’d opened the app, consider doing these things:

  1. Delete Instagram and other social media apps for a period of time (e.g., the rest of today, the whole weekend, two weeks, indefinitely). They’re super easy to reload whenever you decide to get back on, so don’t worry about that (so long as you have your passwords). I’ve found moving them to a different screen insufficient – I need them off my phone. I personally delete Instagram from Friday at 5pm to Sunday evening most weekends and have been deleting it often right now – jumping on for work 1-3 times a day and deleting it the rest of the time so that it can’t suck me in.

  2. Consider doing the same for news apps. At the very least, turn off news notifications. You do not need real-time news alerts. Even the prospect of getting that alert will keep you glancing at your phone (and fragmenting your day) more than you want. Turn off the notifications and limit your news intake until you decide it’s the right time to check in (if at all).

  3. Unfollow or mute people on social media who really get you down. I’m not advocating for creating an eco chamber – I’m all for having productive conversations with people with differing opinions (I’ve had a few really helpful, insightful ones over the past week). BUT we all know that not everyone with a different opinion is going to provide you with thought-provoking posts and conversations – just anger. Remove those people/posts from your feed.Doing all of this will not only protect you from that harmful, not-constructive scrolling – it’ll help free up time and energy to focus on things that bring you joy, such as listening to a fun audiobook, getting outside, coloring with kids, having a conversation with your partner about something funny that happened today, and more.

Alright, that’s it for now.

I know these strategies aren’t perfect. It’s a heavy time, and I’m emotionally down outside of my action-taking windows. But my cortisol levels spike a lot more when I get sucked into social media and news articles.

My goal is not to check out entirely – I want to be an active an engaged citizen who makes this country better for my daughters. But I also want to enjoy my life – my family, my friends, my career, and the things I like to do on my own. I can’t do both at the same time in the same minutes, so I have to get intentional about how I divvy up my time to do both.

Knowing there are many others like me out there, just wanted to share the above in case it’s helpful to you. Good luck, and take care of yourself.

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