Recently, I had a great conversation with one of my favorite people. On our walk to get coffee, we talked about the difficulty of saying ânoâ or âlaterâ to a new project.
We both like to say something like, âgiven everything on my plate right now, I can turn to this on X dateâ â and either hope theyâre good with the later date or, in some cases, turn to someone else.
But hereâs the problem: Due to people-pleasing guilt, we often throw out a date that will only work if we work nights/weekends on our current projects to make ourselves available. Time weâre sacrificing from our people we want to spend time with.
Whether youâre an attorney managing a partner or client’s expectations or an entrepreneur managing those of a client or collaborator, you know what Iâm talking about.
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Planning doesnât always work out. Obviously, sometimes life throws you curveballs. And sometimes plans don’t work in more subtle ways.
In my lawyer days, I used to workout first thing in the AM. So after my daughter started sleeping through the night, I recovered from months of sleep deprivation, and I got my early mornings back, I scheduled working out for that first-thing-in-the-AM slot. After all, thatâs what had worked for me for years.
But, while I had no problem getting up at 5am, I found myself consistently ignoring that âQuick Workoutâ calendar alert. Me! The person who harps on and on about your calendar.
Instead, I wanted to work â to research issues for clients, to work on my online course Iâm releasing next year, etc.
When you find yourself consistently ignoring a planned activity, itâs not a sign planning doesn’t work or that something is wrong with you. Itâs just a little nudge that the activity is either not scheduled at the right time or may not be the right activity for you in the first place.
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My new time management advice: pretend you have a toddler. You know what makes you think twice about saying âyesâ to any invitation or new opportunity? Having to spend time finding childcare to cover you for the event, pay $15-18/hour for that coverage, and not only pay for the hours youâll be at the event, […]
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âThat wonât work for me.â Itâs an easy and convenient way to dismiss a new concept you hear about. Iâm so guilty of this â âMy life is totally different from hers; that wonât work for me. Dismissed. (Nevermind that what Iâm currently doing ALSO isnât working for me.)â Marie Forleoâs book challenged me on […]
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I had a client recently who announced in this âcan you believe what a mess I am?â tone, âI donât think Iâve ever finished a to-do list.â As though this was some deep character flaw. Most to-do lists are dozens of items long. Some of those items take hours or days to complete. And life […]
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What 2-hour period of the day do you get your best work done? For me, itâs 5-7am. Pre-kids, I used to get that window all the time. Pregnancy and then a kiddo under 1.5 years old made me have to adapt because ⊠there was no way. For a while, that “works best” window was […]
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My best guy friend passed away when we were 29. In high school, weâd bonded as the new kids together sophomore year and, as adults, we were lucky enough to end up living in Boston at the same time. He was probably the best person I knew â kind, hilarious, fun-loving, brilliant, compassionate, friends with […]
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As you know, I love time-blocking. And I love time-blocking everything, from time to accomplish business projects to family-time to setting up the coffee machine the night before to reminders to start renewing my driverâs license. (Granted: you need to set up your calendar to accommodate this with tech strategies to avoid calendar overwhelm, but […]
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Lately, Iâve seen more articles and even social media comments ragging on time-blocking. The main reason seems to be that people think that putting everything in their calendar would constrain them and force them to live a regimented, work-work-work life. Thatâs not at all how I use time-blocking in my own calendar or with clients. […]
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Some people donât want to âclutter upâ their calendar with time-blocking. But here’s the thing: the blocks of time just represent how you’re already spending your time. If it looks overwhelmingly cluttered, it’s because your schedule is too cluttered, disorganized or chaotic — which is why you feel the same way. Let’s solve that problem […]
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